Ancient wisdom that’s applicable today: don’t care about what others think of you; think for yourself

Diogenes mit der Lampe auf Menschensuche deutsch 17 Jh

The article below was sent to me by a friend. It’s entirely applicable to what’s happening today with the mass hysteria and groupthink over Covid-19.

First, there was the pressure to stay home, even though (as we now know) there was no medical justification for doing so. Lockdowns were worse than useless. The virus went where it wanted to, with no regard for our actions. But few people dared to disobey the ‘stay at home’ order, knowing their neighbours (and the police in many cases) were watching.

Human beings are instinctively mimetic creatures: we copy each other – but we don’t need to. There’s a certain virtue in daring to use your own reason.

As Kant, in the title page for this blog, says: “Have the courage to use your own understanding . . . Laziness and cowardice are the reasons why such a large part of mankind gladly remain minors all their lives, long after nature has freed them from external guidance. They are the reasons why it is so easy for others to set themselves up as guardians. It is so comfortable to be a minor.”

Yes, it’s easier to cave in, but not always the right thing to do. Every time I wore a mask, I reproached myself for doing so, for conforming. It was easier. I was lazy. When I dared to go maskless, in public places, despite the mandate, I felt much better. Interestingly, no one said anything. I wasn’t scolded by my peers, though I expected to be. The mask mandates were pointless: masks don’t work. They are just symbols of submission.

Then later on in 2021, there was the pressure to get vaccinated with an experimental drug that we now know is not that safe or effective. But the pressure to succumb to it was immense — and still is. Many people cared about what others thought of them, so they caved into getting the jab even when they had serious reservations about doing so. Many had to do it to keep their jobs. Others chose to be fired. Everyone had to face this terrible decision imposed on us from on high.

Increasingly, we were being conditioned to accept a Chinese Communist style social credit system, which is behaviour modification based on how others perceive us and what the government permits or restricts. That is fundamentally wrong.

Many were understandably were upset when the new ruling political class hypocritically ignored social distancing protocols (e.g. BLM rallies, Nancy Pelosi’s hair salon, Gavin Newsom’s dinner party, Obama’s birthday party, etc). Jobs and church and visiting one’s relatives were sacrificed by millions, but these people — the same ones who presumed to tell us how to live — had the nerve to violate their own rules?

That’s when we should all have cast off our bonds and defeated the medical tyrants by disobeying all their ridiculous rules. What kept us from doing so was the gaze of others, the Pantoptycon prison we’ve all been put into.

Then there was the censorship, which exploded in the last two years on social media, leading millions to self-censor in their speech — another form of coercion and loss of freedom and autonomy.

The only thing I don’t care for in this article below is the frequent negative reference to “the West.” Are there other cultures doing any better? In China, individualism is rare; it is against the law there to live and think autonomously.

Increasingly, that is also the case in the rest of the world. Wokeism, which grew out of political correctness in the 1980s and 90s, is an example of the slide into groupthink.

The sudden rise of medical tyranny in 2020-21 is an especially alarming example of the decline of individualism and loss of autonomy of the will.

The opposite of autonomy is heteronomy of the will which means deferring to the will of others — such as medical and political authorities. Instead, we should learn to think for ourselves, to use our own reason to discern what is fact or fiction, right or wrong. Following the crowd blindly rarely turns out well, as the last two years have demonstrated.

Of course, the price of thinking for oneself is the risk of being ostracized, or even ridiculed and scapegoated, as the unvaccinated are experiencing today. It can be a high price to pay for one’s bodily and mental autonomy, but I believe it’s worth it. Freedom is worth giving a great deal for – even one’s life if necessary.

Nor should we allow ourselves to be silenced by the censors. John Stuart Mill, in On Liberty, argued that “If all mankind minus one, were of one opinion, and only one person were of the contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in silencing that one person, than he, if he had the power, would be justified in silencing mankind.”

Why Caring What Others Think Breeds Mental Illness

by Academy of Ideas, Jan. 27, 2021

The following is a transcript of this video.

“Put up with being laughed at on occasion; look around you, and give yourself a good shaking to find out who you really are.”  

Epictetus, Discourses

Common sense tells us that a modicum of concern for the opinions of others is useful in the cultivating of good relationships and the maintenance of social cohesion. But most people care too much about what other people think and in this video, we will explore how this is damaging to our psychological health. We will then look at how becoming more comfortable with ridicule, rejection and the disdain of others can greatly increase our chance of living a fulfilling life. 

“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”  

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

In the modern West, a great emphasis is placed on the attainment of social validation and on looking good in the eyes of others, and this is creating a population of men and women who are stunted in their development. For social validation is derived primarily from one thing – success in the external world, or at least the appearance of it. Our job title, our material possessions, the size of our bank account, our physical looks and fashion choices, the status of the people we associate with, such are the things that bring the validation that so many crave. But this excessive orientation to the world of people, places and things is not a healthy way to live for as Carl Jung writes: 

“The man whose interests are all outside is never satisfied with what is necessary, but is perpetually hankering after something more and better which, true to his bias, he always seeks outside himself. He forgets completely that, for all his outward successes, he himself remains the same inwardly. . .Obviously the outward lives of men could do with a lot more bettering and beautifying, but those things lose their meaning when the inner man does not keep pace with them.” 

Carl Jung, Psychology and Religion

Jung was no ascetic who denied the value of worldly success rather his point was that without a bettering and beautifying of the inner man, or what amounts to the state of our psyche, external success will leave us none the richer. We can surround ourselves with an opulence of material goods, we can attain the contemporary social-ideal of beauty and style, our peers can admire us, but if the inner man is neglected, misery and suffering will haunt our days, or as Jung explains: 

“To be satiated with the “necessities” [of external success] is no doubt an inestimable source of happiness, yet the inner man continues to raise his claim, and this can be satisfied by no outward possessions. And the less this voice is heard in the chase after the brilliant things of this world, the more the inner man becomes a source of inexplicable misfortune and uncomprehended unhappiness in the midst of living conditions whose outcome was expected to be entirely different. The externalization of life turns to incurable suffering, because no one can understand why he should suffer from himself. . . That is the sickness of Western man. . .”

Carl Jung, Psychology and Religion

But if an excessive orientation to the external world and an accompanied neglect of our inner development is the sickness of the West, what is the cure? We should step off the path of conformity – as to conform means to seek social validation through the ideal of external success – and we should re-orient our life so as to bring more order, harmony, and strength to our psyche. We must in other words, live a more authentic life, a life that heeds the call of our inner man, or as the 16th-century philosopher Michel de Montaigne explains:

“Whatever it be, whether art or nature, that has inscribed in us this condition of living by reference to others, it does us much more harm than good. We defraud ourselves out of what is actually useful to us in order to make appearances conform to common opinion. We care less about the real truth of our inner selves than about how we are known to the public.”   

Montaigne, On Vanity

But to be one of the few who stops living by reference to others necessitates a diminished fear of ridicule, rejection and the disapproval of others. For one who fears such things will remain a conformist and thereby forever susceptible to the sickness of which Jung spoke. And so, in recognition that a fear is best diminished by exposure to the feared object, we can turn to the ancient philosophical practice of intentionally behaving in ways that elicit social disapproval. The Roman Senator Cato, a follower of Stoic philosophy, who lived in the first century BC was an advocate of this practice and as William Irvine writes in his book A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy

“[One] way to overcome our obsession with winning the admiration of other people is to go out of our way to do things likely to trigger their disdain. . . .Cato made a point of ignoring the dictates of fashion. . .According to Plutarch, Cato did this not because he “sought vainglory”; to the contrary , he dressed differently in order to accustom himself “to be ashamed only of what was really shameful, and to ignore men’s low opinion of other things.” In other words, Cato consciously did things to trigger the disdain of other people simply so he could practice ignoring their disdain.”

William Irvine, A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy

Another famous figure who engaged in this practice was Diogenes the Cynic who lived in the 4th century BC. On an almost daily basis, Diogenes took actions that evoked ridicule, rejection and disdain. As but one example, he would walk backward into theatres, against the flow of everyone who was exiting for the purpose of acclimating himself to acts of non-conformity. When he did this people would mock him and question his purpose to which he replied:

“Aren’t you ashamed that while you’re walking in the wrong direction in life, you scoff at me for walking backwards?”

Diogenes the Cynic, Sayings and Anecdotes

Diogenes was so successful at detaching himself from any concern of what other people thought of him that he reached a level of freedom most can only dream of – the chains of other people’s opinions no longer constricted him, the burden of social validation did not weigh on him and instead of shaping his life to look good in the eyes of others, his sole purpose was to cultivate a greatness of self through mastery of body and mind.

“When someone said to Diogenes, ‘Most people laugh at you’, he replied, ‘And doubtless donkeys laugh at them; but just as they pay no heed to the donkeys, I pay none to them.’”

Diogenes the Cynic, Sayings and Anecdotes

This approach to life did not result in Diogenes being looked down upon by all of his peers, rather many famous figures admired him – Alexander the Great was so impressed with his character that he stated: 

“If I were not Alexander, I would like to be Diogenes!” 

Diogenes the Cynic, Sayings and Anecdotes

While the great Stoic philosopher Epictetus considered Diogenes to be the rare example of a real-life sage: 

“But I can show you a free man, to save you from having to search any longer for an example. Diogenes was free.”

Epictetus, Discourses

To move toward the ideal of a Diogenes we may find it useful to adopt the following mindset when engaging in our practice: we are not performing acts of non-conformity merely to look like a fool, nor to attract attention or annoy people. Our purpose is to learn more about human nature and more about our own potential. We are practicing what Nietzsche called “psychological observation” and so when our actions elicit ridicule or disapproval we can follow the advice of the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer who counseled the following:

“If you come across any special trait of meanness or stupidity. .you must be careful not to let it annoy or distress you, but to look upon it merely as an addition to your knowledge – a new fact to be considered in studying the character of humanity. Your attitude towards it will be that of the mineralogist who stumbles upon a very characteristic specimen of a mineral.”

Arthur Schopenhauer, Counsels and Maxims

Another way to ease the sting of ridicule is to remember that very often the people who are quickest to judge and the most excessive with their insults, are those whose opinions matter least. They are not men and women of sound mind, but individuals consumed by the sickness of the West who use criticism as a means to project their misery and self-hate onto others, and as Epictetus wrote: 

“Who are these people whose admiration you seek? Aren’t they the ones you are used to describing as mad? Well, then, is that what you want – to be admired by lunatics?”  

Epictetus, Discourses

This ancient philosophical practice of voluntarily exposing ourselves to ridicule and rejection will teach us an important lesson: the world does not end when someone shames us, and no harm really comes to us when others disapprove of our ways so long as we are comfortable with the actions we take. With time insults and negative judgments by other people will become mere empty words that may pass through our ears but do not disturb our mind. We will no longer feel compelled to live by reference to others and if we are then willing to listen to the call of our inner man or woman a greater life will open before us. Free of the fear ridicule, we will be free of the sickness of Western man. 

“The greatest height of heroism to which an individual can attain is to know how to face ridicule; better still, to know how to make oneself ridiculous and not to shrink from the ridicule.”  

Miguel de Unamuno, The Tragic Sense of Life

FURTHER READINGS

Art Used in this Video

Rua Nova dos Mercadores (2) - Society of Antiquaries of London, Kelmscott Manor

Honoré Daumier - The Theatre- The Orchestra Pit - 1921.1497 - Cleveland Museum of Art

The Genius and the Crowd

Herbert Henry Asquith Vanity Fair 1 August 1891-cropped

Honoré Daumier, Bertrand, dis donc, s'ils allaient nous faire..., 1838, NGA 57184

Honoré daumier-pierre napoléon bonaparte

Honoré Daumier - The Loge (In the Theatre Boxes) - Walters 371988

Midas Washing at the Source of the Pactolus by Bartolomeo Manfredi, c. 1617-19

Auguste toulmouche-vanity

Honoré Daumier - A Meeting of Lawyers - Google Art Project

Henry Irving Vanity Fair

The Wasp. A Saturday journal of illustration and comment, devoted to the discussion of public affairs, finance, society and art (1879) (14796579493)

Diogenes, bust-length, and turned to the right, holding a lantern MET DP836615

Jan Victors - Diogenes

The Court Jester by John Watson Nicol

Cesare Maccari. Appius Claudius Caecus in senate

Peter Paul Rubens (Kopie nach) - Diogenes mit der Laterne - 1301 - Bavarian State Painting Collections

Johann Carl Loth - Diogenes - 67.50 - Minneapolis Institute of Arts

Monsiau - Alexandre et Diogène

Giovanni Battista Langetti - Diogenes

Anonymous Dutch - Diogenes and Alexander

Gioacchino Assereto (1600-1649) - Diogenes with His Lantern - 108830 - National Trust

Gaspard Gresly - Diogenes

William Rainey, Alexander and Diogenes

Prussian Homage Stanczyk

A man stands inside a barrel surrounded by a crowd of people Wellcome V0040075

Zola sortie

Lovis Corinth - Diogene

Diogenes Jordaens

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